Sunday, September 27, 2009

The End of our Great Journey...Beginning of Another

At some point, I need to really reflect on all that took place this summer. We feel so blessed to have visited friends and family from so many different spheres of life. And most of the time, we felt unworthy of the love and prayers we received from those we love. It is hard to know how to say thank you to the many friends who opened their homes to us across the country. We only stayed in a hotel one night. Incredible gift. Just this week, after celebrating my brother's wedding, we traveled to Boston and stayed with our dear friends, Eric and Beth Mollenhauer. It is so refreshing to be with friends who've known you for close to 20 years. We then traveled to Rhode Island to stay with other dear friends, Kurt and Mary Jamiel, and to celebrate our friend Amy Macera's wedding with my annual reunion gang.

Kurt and Mary completely surprised us with an incredible gift. Kurt was a sponsor of the Providence Rotary Club Street Festival fundraiser. He wanted to show us the chalk art done by various artists. As we were walking on the path, we came to one entitled, "Love is Patient" and there was an incredible portrait of our girls. Kurt had hired a local artist friend to creat the beautiful picture you see here. Dano and I did not know what to say.

It seems we've been speechless most of this trip. We are blessed with incredible friends and family members who inspire us with their generosity, humility, good works, and faith. So thank you to everyone who made this "Great American Journey" possible. Now we set off for another tomorrow morning...one we know is already changing our lives forever.



Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Dossier off to State Dept and Rwandan Embassy

Six weeks ago, we began the process to adopt a son from Rwanda. I cannot believe how fast the time has gone by. We are doing the process independently, so I was a bit nervous regarding the administrative challenges of getting this all done without any problems. However, here we are six weeks later and our dossier is complete and being reviewed by the State Department and will be delivered to the Rwandan Embassy tomorrow supposedly. Hoping and praying that we did not forget anything. I am still in shock by how fast we got this done. We are so thankful to be in Vermont for this process. In Seattle, it took me close to nine months before our dossier was ready to send to China.

Today, Anna said, "Thank you mommy for getting me a little brother. I SoOOOO excited!"

And Lian is already making her list of names for him.

We feel very blessed.

12 days left till we move to Rwanda...in that time we will attend my brother's wedding, drive to Boston, see some Revolutionary War sites, visit our good friends the Mollenhauers, drive to Warren, RI to stay with our dear friends, the Jamiels, and then attend Amy Macera's wedding, which will be my annual reunion with my college roommates, and then finally drive to NJ on the 27th to stay with the Peixotos, before their daughter, Caroline, joins us on the flight to Rwanda on the 28th. Whew....my emotions are starting to run a little high by this reality.

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Rwanda Journey Adds Another to Our Family

One more month until we depart for Rwanda. Hard to believe. This summer has been such a gift to our family. It has been amazing to see the girls grow in their love and friendship with each other. Over 6200 miles traveled across this beautiful country. Now we are in beautiful Vermont. For four weeks we don't have to unpack our bags. After living out of suitcases since we sold our house on May 31, this is very welcome. We are settled into my parents' lake cottage in the town of Glover, VT. It is literally in the middle of nowhere, but that is a welcome respite for us. For pictures of the cottage, check out www.villagevictorian.com and then click on the lake cottage link. We have to drive 10 miles to get internet access, so it's been nice to take a break from being "wired."

Our big news as a family is that we've decided to add another member to our family. Dano and I have thought about adding to our family for over a year, but while it was easy for us to decide on China for our girls, we just didn't know from where our third child would come. The wait for Chinese adoptions is now 3-5 years. Since we will be in Rwanda for at least three years, we decided to pursue a Rwandan adoption. While in Ft. Worth, TX, we met with Gladney Adoptions because we knew they worked in Rwanda. While everyone there was very nice, we were overwhelmed by the costs of a third adoption. We talked with another couple who adopted from Rwanda and they recommended we go independently. We then learned Rwanda prefers this method. We also learned from Gladney that if we wanted to adopt from Rwanda, we had better get our homestudy and dossier prepared prior to leaving the States. We had thought we'd start the process after moving to Rwanda. We gulped....how could we process everything in less than 6 weeks? Just to file our I-600A(petition to the US government to adopt an orphan) had always taken 3-5 months for our other two daughters. I truly believe God knew we needed to be in Vermont.

Vermont is very adoption-friendly and it is a small state. We have been working our tails off the past two weeks trying to get all of our paperwork needed for our dossier and we were able to get our homestudy done and written in three days, scheduled an appointment with immigration last week to file our I-600A. Eight days later, we have our approval in hand! I love this state! I also love small towns...(I know I have a blog somewhere in my mind about what I've pondered regarding the future of small towns in America)...we were able to get a doctor's appointmen tfor our physicals within a week. The local notary has processed everything for free for us...our friends from Seattle have been incredible getting letters of reference signed for us and our attorney friend Sherman Snow has been our "notary-in-residence" for all Seattle area documents. We feel incredibly blessed. All this to say....our paperwork is all ready for its next stage.

The next stage is to get our documents notarized by the secretary of state in each originating state, i.e. NY birth certificate for me notarized by Secy of State of NY, bank docs from Texas, notarized by Texas, etc. This is what the agencies used to do for us. Once we receive those documents back, which we hope will only take two weeks, we can then file our dossier with the US Secretary of State's office. Once that is received back (and we've found someone who can do this in person in DC), it is taken to the Rwandan Embassy in D.C. Once that is approved, we can hand it in to the Rwandan Minister of Gender and Family Information in Kigali. Our hope is we will have this in our hands when we leave for Kigali.

What is the timeline for receiving our son? Rwanda is new to international adoptions, so a lot could change, but it seems that once the dossier is received by the Minister, it may only take 2-4 months to receive our referral. This is hard for us to fathom after we waited 18 months for Lian and 2 1/2 years for Anna. So...stay tuned...
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Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Our Africa Reading List

The Following is our book list as we prepare to move to Rwanda next month. A few people had asked me for suggestions, so I hope this is helpful.

Read This Year

A Thousand Hills: Rwanda's Rebirth and the Man Who Dreamed It by Steven Kinzer
Left to Tell: Discovering God Amidst the Rwandan Holocaust by Immaculee Ilibagiza
Scared: A Novel on the Edge of the World by Tom Davis
We Wish to Inform You that Tomorrow We Will be Killed with Our Families: Stories from Rwanda by Philip Gourevitch
The Bishop of Rwanda by John Rucyahana and James Riordan

Currently Reading
The Mission Song by John Le Carre
Africa: Altered States, Ordinary Miracles by Richard Dowd
The State of Africa: A History of Fifty Years of Independence by Martin Meredith
The Covenant by James Michener

Still to Read
The Bottom Billion: Why the Poorest Countries are Failing and What Can be Done About It by Paul Collier
The Blue Sweater: Bridging the Gap Between Rich and Poor in an Interconnected World by Jacqueline Novogratz

Please let us know if you have any other suggestions for us.

Thursday, July 30, 2009

Anna's quotes

We have been driving all week, staying with friends and not having much internet access, so I am way behind on blogs. However, before I forget these Anna-isms, I thought I'd just write down two of them:

"Where are we?"
"Mississippi"
"Did Mrs. Sippie eat my fruit rollup?"

"Keep your eyes open girls for a restaurant."
"No, Daddy. I will keep my eyes closed for a restaurant."

Monday, July 13, 2009

We must start from the simple premise that Africa’s future is up to Africans

Our partner, Carter Crockett, just moved to Kigali on the 12th. On the 11th, President Obama went to Africa to give a message of economic hope and partnership. I've highlighted some portions of his speech below, one that is the latest indication that we are in the "right place... right time". The whole article can be read at:http://blogs.wsj.com/washwire/2009/07/11/obamas-speech-in-ghana-on-african-development/

“We must start from the simple premise that Africa’s future is up to Africans.”

and the West has often approached Africa as a patron, rather than a partner.

This progress may lack the drama of the 20th century’s liberation struggles, but make no mistake: it will ultimately be more significant. For just as it is important to emerge from the control of another nation, it is even more important to build one’s own.

So I believe that this moment is just as promising for Ghana — and for Africa — as the moment when my father came of age and new nations were being born. This is a new moment of promise. Only this time, we have learned that it will not be giants like Nkrumah and Kenyatta who will determine Africa’s future. Instead, it will be you — the men and women in Ghana’s Parliament, and the people you represent. Above all, it will be the young people — brimming with talent and energy and hope — who can claim the future that so many in my father’s generation never found.

To realize that promise, we must first recognize a fundamental truth that you have given life to in Ghana: development depends upon good governance.

As for America and the West, our commitment must be measured by more than just the dollars we spend. I have pledged substantial increases in our foreign assistance, which is in Africa’s interest and America’s. But the true sign of success is not whether we are a source of aid that helps people scrape by — it is whether we are partners in building the capacity for transformational change.

This mutual responsibility must be the foundation of our partnership.

The continent is rich in natural resources. And from cell phone entrepreneurs to small farmers, Africans have shown the capacity and commitment to create their own opportunities. But old habits must also be broken. Dependence on commodities — or on a single export — concentrates wealth in the hands of the few and leaves people too vulnerable to downturns.

In Ghana, for instance, oil brings great opportunities, and you have been responsible in preparing for new revenue. But as so many Ghanaians know, oil cannot simply become the new cocoa. From South Korea to Singapore, history shows that countries thrive when they invest in their people and infrastructure; when they promote multiple export industries, develop a skilled work force and create space for small and medium-sized businesses that create jobs.

As Africans reach for this promise, America will be more responsible in extending our hand. By cutting costs that go to Western consultants and administration, we will put more resources in the hands of those who need it, while training people to do more for themselves. That is why our $3.5 billion food security initiative is focused on new methods and technologies for farmers — not simply sending American producers or goods to Africa. Aid is not an end in itself. The purpose of foreign assistance must be creating the conditions where it is no longer needed.

America can also do more to promote trade and investment. Wealthy nations must open our doors to goods and services from Africa in a meaningful way. And where there is good governance, we can broaden prosperity through public-private partnerships that invest in better roads and electricity; capacity-building that trains people to grow a business; and financial services that reach poor and rural areas. This is also in our own interest — for if people are lifted out of poverty and wealth is created in Africa, new markets will open for our own goods.

One area that holds out both undeniable peril and extraordinary promise is energy. Africa gives off less greenhouse gas than any other part of the world, but it is the most threatened by climate change. A warming planet will spread disease, shrink water resources and deplete crops, creating conditions that produce more famine and conflict. All of us — particularly the developed world — have a responsibility to slow these trends — through mitigation, and by changing the way that we use energy. But we can also work with Africans to turn this crisis into opportunity.

Together, we can partner on behalf of our planet and prosperity and help countries increase access to power while skipping the dirtier phase of development. Across Africa, there is bountiful wind and solar power; geothermal energy and bio-fuels. From the Rift Valley to the North African deserts; from the Western coast to South Africa’s crops — Africa’s boundless natural gifts can generate its own power, while exporting profitable, clean energy abroad.

These steps are about more than growth numbers on a balance sheet. They’re about whether a young person with an education can get a job that supports a family; a farmer can transfer their goods to the market; or an entrepreneur with a good idea can start a business. It’s about the dignity of work. Its about the opportunity that must exist for Africans in the 21st century.

America has a responsibility to advance this vision, not just with words, but with support that strengthens African capacity.

With strong institutions and a strong will, I know that Africans can live their dreams in Nairobi and Lagos; in Kigali and Kinshasa; in Harare and right here in Accra.

Now, that triumph must be won once more, and it must be won by you. Fifty-two years ago, the eyes of the world were on Ghana. And a young preacher named Martin Luther King traveled here, to Accra, to watch the Union Jack come down and the Ghanaian flag go up. This was before the march on Washington or the success of the civil rights movement in my country. Dr. King was asked how he felt while watching the birth of a nation. And he said: “It renews my conviction in the ultimate triumph of justice.”

And I am particularly speaking to the young people. In places like Ghana, you make up over half of the population. Here is what you must know: the world will be what you make of it.

You have the power to hold your leaders accountable and to build institutions that serve the people. You can serve in your communities and harness your energy and education to create new wealth and build new connections to the world. You can conquer disease, end conflicts and make change from the bottom up. You can do that. Yes you can. Because in this moment, history is on the move.


But these things can only be done if you take responsibility for your future. It won’t be easy. It will take time and effort. There will be suffering and setbacks. But I can promise you this: America will be with you. As a partner. As a friend. Opportunity won’t come from any other place, though _ it must come from the decisions that you make, the things that you do, and the hope that you hold in your hearts.

Freedom is your inheritance. Now, it is your responsibility to build upon freedom’s foundation.”

Monday, July 6, 2009

Differences between our two girls

Traveling with our girls also highlights their differences - and oh how we love both of them! Tonight, we were driving home from Lian's camp in Fort Worth. We had just had some dinner. Definitely nearing bed time. Anna would not stop talking. Our entire road trip was like this - constant Anna chatter. We finally resorted to our "Quiet Game." You know, the one where you see who can be the most quiet. At the mention of this game, this is how the following ensued:

Daddy - "It's time for the Quiet Game."
Lian - "I LOVE that game!" (proceeds to be silent for the next ten minutes)
Anna - "No."
Anna - "Let's play game."
Anna - "What game, Daddy?"
Daddy - "The quiet game, Anna."
Anna - "Oh. What's that?"
Anna - "We play game."
Anna - "Mom, you be Bob. I be Cucumber (referring to Bob and Larry from Veggie Tales)"
Anna - "What, ma?" (I hadn't said anything)
Anna - "Momma - you be Bob. I be cucumber. Mom?"
Mommy - "Look, Anna, we are almost home. I can't be Bob."
Anna - "Home to Texas house?"
Mommy - "Yes, Anna."
Anna - "We aren't. You be Bob. I be cucumber."

and then we pulled in the driveway. So much for the quiet game :)